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Difference between love and friendship.
As time pass
In love u get married... become husband / wife
have babies become father/ mother .. grand parents ... and so on ...
But in friendship u will always be a friend.
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You want to be loved because you do not love;
but the moment you love, its finished,
you are no longer inquiring
whether or not somebody loves you.

--- J Krishnamurti

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Love is not getting, but giving;
not a dream of pleasure and madness of desire --
oh no, love is not that --
it is goodness, honour and peace and pure living.

--- Henry van dyke
(Little Rivers: A Handful of Heather)

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A man falls in love through his eyes,
a woman through her ears.

--- Woodrow wyatt
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Love is a smoke made of fumes of sighs;
being purg'd, a fire sparkling in lover's eyes;
being vex'd, a sea nourished with lover's tears.
What is it else ?
A madness most discreet, a choking gall and a preserving sweet.

--- Shakespeare.
(Romeo and Juliet)
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The problem is that the world 'love' has been romaticised into a feeling.
Being that feelings are so transitory, so love becomes transitory.
As I see it love is not a feeling.
It is a commitment ... a commitment to go through the hills and valleys
and other's life with them.

--- Thupten phuntsog diz
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I love you ...
because you're a sweet little fool.
--- J H Boner
(The sweet little fool)

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No love so true as love that dies untold.

--- O W Holmes
(The mysterious illness)

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Ay, so true love should do:
it cannot speak; for truth hath better deeds than words to grace it.

--- Shakespeare
(Two Gentalmen of Verona)

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Love is, as you are the knife
which I plunge into myself.

--- Franz Kafka
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Unless you can muse in a crowd all day;
on the absent face that fixed you:
unless you can love, as angles may,
with the breadth of heaven betwixt you;
unless you can dream that his faith is fast,
through behoving and unbehoving;
unless you can die when the dream is past --
oh, never call it loving!

--- E B Browning
(A woman's shortcommings)

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You are as prone to love as the sun is to shine;
it being the most delightful and natural employment of Soul of Man:
without which you are dark and miserable.
--- Thomas traherne

(Centuries of Meditations)

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Love is swift, sincere, pious, pleasant, gentle, strong, patient,
faithful, prudent, long-suffering manly
and never seeking her own:
for wheresoever a man seeketh his own, there he falleth from love.

--- Thomas A Kempis
De Imitatione Christi

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I confess that
I love this woman;
if that is a sin
I confess that also.

--- Terence
(Andria)

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Falling in love is easy.
Growing in love must be worked at with determination.

--- Lesley Barefoot

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Those who love deeply never grow old;
they may die of old age,
but they die young.

--- Arthur wing pinero

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Though it rains.
I won't get wet:
I'll use you love
For an umberalla.

--- Japanese flok song.

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Love means never having to say you're sorry.

--- Eric Segal

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The paradox of love is that you have to become separate
in order to become connected.
It isn't becoming one.
If you do that, you lose yourself.

--- Rubinstein

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Listen with a third ear.
Be sensitive not just to the words,
but to the feelings behind the words and the gestures.
Learn to use the power of silence.
If your partner is angry, allow him to calm down,
look at him, but don't speak.
The key to the art of loving is understanding that loving means giving.
You get love by giving love, without expectations of receiving something back.

--- Rubinstein

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Though most people want to work on their partners, not themselves,
you can't change your partner, only yourself.
Your partner can help and encourage you to change through
"caring confrontation" - the fine art of being able to tell it like it is,
without being judgmental or critical.

--- Rubinstein

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If you're thinking of splitting, remember,
you're going to have to take yourself with you,
the person you are in your current relationship
is the person you'll be in the next one.

--- Rubinstein

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You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.

--- Kahlil Gibran

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"Now is the time to give me roses, not to keep them for my grave to
come. Give them to me while my heart beats, give them today while my
heart yearns for jubilee. Now is the time..."

--- Mzwakhe Mbuli

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"But if you love... let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
and to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart
and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart
and a song of praise upon your lips."

--- Kahlil Gibran
(Lebanese Poet
The Prophet)

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"For one human being to love another;
that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks;
the ultimate, the last test and proof;
the work for which all other work is but preparation."

---Rainer Maria Rilke
(German Poet and Author )

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"I wrote a good omelet... and ate a hot poem...
after loving you

Buttoned my car... and drove my coat home... in the rain...
after loving you

I goed on red... and stopped on green... floating somewhere in
between...

being here and being there...
after loving you

I rolled my bed... turned down my hair... slightly confused but... I don't care...
Laid out my teeth... and gargled my gown... then I stood ... and laid me down...
to sleep...
after loving you"

--- Nikki Giovanni
(Love Poems)
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"I do not love you as if you were salt-rose or topaz
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved
in secret, between shadow and soul

I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where
I love you straightforwardly, without complexity or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exists, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep."

Pablo Neruda
Chilean Poet, Nobel Prize Winner
Author of "Twenty Love Poems And a Song Of Despair"

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When my love's love is not me,
I have two people to love and care.

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